What is The Marriage Course?
The Marriage Course was developed in 1996 by Nicky and Sila Lee (authors of The Marriage Book) for couples looking for practical support to strengthen their relationship.
Over seven sessions, the course will help you to:
- Understand each other’s needs
- Communicate more effectively
- Grow closer by learning methods to resolve conflict
- Recover from the ways you may have hurt each other
- Recognise how your upbringing affects your relationship
- Improve relationships with parents and in-laws
- Develop greater sexual intimacy
- Discover each other’s "love language" and much, much more....
Who is it for?
The Marriage Course is for couples who are in a married or cohabiting* relationship and seeking to strengthen their relationship. Some couples do the course to invest in their relationship, others need more urgent help. Either way, the course offers a lifetime of practical ideas and tools to help keep your relationship strong.
The Marriage Course is based on Christian principles but designed for all couples with or without a church background.
*Some course leaders may be running their course for married couples only. Please check with your local course before booking.
Watch Cassius and Jessie's story as they share why they did the course and how it affected their relationship:
What can we expect?
On The Marriage Course, you are seated at your own table for two. Each session consists of food and/or drink, a practical talk and a time for private discussion between you and your partner.
Background music ensures that you can chat in complete privacy. You never share anything about your relationship with anyone other than your partner.
Watch the short video below to get an idea of what you can expect when you both attend The Marriage Course:
How do we continue investing in our marriage?
After the course, couples continue to put into practice what they've learned to help keep their marriage strong and healthy.
Here are some of the things we suggest to support continued investment in your marriage:
1. Marriage Time
Marriage Time is about spending quality time together as a couple. This is especially challenging with busy lifestyles and children yet couples find it incredibly valuable for the long-term health of their relationship.
There are many activities you can plan together that don't cost the earth: Cooking a meal together, going for a long walk, sharing a bath or enjoying a game night with childhood boardgames. You can also plan ahead by booking a trip to the theatre or a night away at a bed and breakfast.
> Marriage Time Ideas [PDF]
2. Further reading
Learn more about marriage and relationships with Nicky and Sila’s recommended reading:
- The Marriage Book - by Nicky and Sila Lee
- Hope for the Separated - by Gary Chapman
- The Mystery of Marriage - by Mike Mason
- Boundaries in Marriage - by Dr Henry Cloud and Dr John Townsend
- The Sixty Minute Marriage - by Rob Parsons
- Loving Against the Odds - by Rob Parsons
- The Highway Code for Marriage - by Michael and Hilary Perrott
For more titles and information:
> Download Reading List [PDF]
3. Professional Counselling
Sometimes couples require additional help. As a first step, we recommend you ask your course leader for a referral. They can often recommend someone suited to your needs and based near you.
If you prefer more specific support, the organisations listed below can put you in touch with accredited counsellors. (Try to speak with the counsellor(s) in advance to make sure they hold similar values to you regarding marriage before booking a session.)
Its Good To Talk
‘There’s no counselling, no airing of dirty linen in public, no group therapy – and it seems to work.’ View original article
‘The Marriage Course has given us the confidence that, even though we are very different, and often don’t agree on many things, our marriage is and will be strong.’
- A Marriage Course Guest
‘The course gave me the ability to see our relationship in a completely new way.’
- A Marriage Course Guest